Week 2

this is not a boxSome thoughts on Flexible Thinking:

One of the most popular ideas about flexible thinking is that it is “thinking outside of the box.” But what if you are thinking outside of the box and what you need is precisely to think “inside of the box?”

I personally think, that this is what flexible thinking is all about. Sometimes you have to think outside, and sometimes you have to think inside. In other words, flexible thinking is about adaptation.

One of my favorite explanations of flexible thinking comes from Walter Riso, an Italian Doctor in Psychology who resides in Europe and South America. He explains that we can have a flexible mind, a fluid mind or a rigid mind.

The rigid mind does not allow an individual to accept new ideas, even if the new ideas are characterized by logic. These are individuals with a strong sense of autocracy and dogmas. Their point of view is the only valid point of view, even when presented with evidence of the contrary.

The fluid minds, basically flow. Sounds optimum, but in reality, this type of mind does not allow one individual to compromise. Like water, they adapt to any space but not because of a conscious choice, but because of their state of being. They just are. No compromises, no opinions, no decisions, no disciple, just flow.

The flexible mind has ideas, just like the rigid mind but flows like the fluid mind. It has the capacity to present ideas but also to accept ideas from others. They key of the flexible mind is that it improves our lives through adaptation.

If I were hungry and I wanted to eat a chicken sandwich as soon as I got home, but there was no chicken, some of the possible scenarios would be as follow:

  1. I could be upset because I really wanted a chicken sandwich, I would not eat and starve and die (this is an exaggeration, but explains it from an adaptation perspective)
  2. I could be fluid and eat anything I find on the fridge. With no care on the world, I could end up eating a three-week-old shrimp kung-pao and get really sick. (another exaggeration, to explain it from an adaptation perspective)
  3. Or I could be flexible and think of many different but logical options. I could go out and eat. I could order delivery, or I could fix me a ham and cheese sandwich.

This week, you have to discuss flexible thinking with your child(ren). You can use simpler examples to explain this concept.

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This part is assignment. Look at the cartoon below, and add in the comment section your answer. How would you explain flexible thinking to Calvin instead of forcing him to do homework?

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15 thoughts on “Week 2

  1. I would expalin him that is his choice to do the homework and I will let him face the natural consequences of not doing, and that the consequences will come from the decisions he makes. If he doesn’t complete his homework, his grades will drop. I could ask him how he believes he will feel if this happens.

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  2. I would sit with my child and explain to them the faster you get you homework done the faster you can go out and continue playing . Being responsible is very important.

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  3. This is very a common situation in my household. One of my kids has a sense of responsibility and never argues when the home work needs to be done, but the other one is having a difficult time switching from drawing, which she likes a lot, to doing her homework. I noticed that she gets more encouraged when I help her to complete the assignments vs working on her homework independently. Also, I would usually say: “If you complete your homework on time, you will be able to go with me for a walk to the park later.” This or other similar reward would encourage Calvin not to delay his homework.

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  4. I would explain to Calvin the difference/role of responsibilities vs leisure. Certain things are required of everyone depending on their age. For instance, mommy and daddy have to work in order to be able to provide money for the family to do fun things. That is mommy and daddy’s responsibilities. Responsibilities provides access to leisure. Leisure things are explained as the fun things, such as going outside to play. Now, you, as a child have a responsibility to go to school and do your homework. Taking care of your responsibilities allows you to do leisure things, such as go outside to play.

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  5. I would explain to my child that we all have roles and responsibilities that help us accomplish the goals we have in life. The effort we put into our homework and other responsibilities contributes to our success now and later in life. There are consequences for not following through with our responsibilities. And there is a sense of accomplishment when we do complete our tasks.

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  6. I would give him a choices. Do homework a play a bit. Of course I would explain the importance of home work and responsibilities.
    Back to the task: let’s say I would offer to the child 10 minutes of home work equal of 5 minutes break for game or some thing similar. For example use formula of giving and receiving. Give some of your time to the responsibilities and receive some time for your personal stuff.

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    1. I would find a fun way to study with him. Let him know that we will spend X amount of time on homework then he can have X amount of time to do what he wants. Repeat as needed to complete the homework.

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  7. I would tell Calvin, that I will sit with him, and we can do homework together, and as soon as We are done then he can play. I will explain to him as I do now to my own child, that homework is important, but it can be fun! I explain to my child that after homework there I will be time to play. Without priorities, and routine a child is lost.

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  8. I’m not sure how I can properly explain the concept of flexible thinking to my daughter as she is 4 years old. But frequently instead of sitting down to eat, she wants to play with her toys or sit in the living room to watch T.V., so i tell her that we can watch T.V. while eating at the table or she can bring the toys too. Regarding the comic, another way the child can get the homework done is by doing it with the parent or have the child try to teach the parent or the toy the homework.

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  9. There is a little thing that’s called moderation!… But it’s has to be put in place.
    Especially young… Kids have to know about balance.
    No matters what place or challenges you may have balance well stand.

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  10. There is a little thing that’s called moderation!… But it’s has to be put in place.
    Especially when young… Kids have to know about balance in order to know limits.
    No matters what place or challenges you may experience,win or lose balance well stand.

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  11. I would sit down with Calvin and try to get him to understand that if would probably be a better idea for him to do his homework now so that he’ll have free time to play later rather than playing around at the moment and have to stress later for trying to get things done last minute.

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  12. I would let him know there will be plenty of time to have fun after homework. If there’s no resistance I’d offer something special to reward him for doing what he’s supposed to without me having to ask multiple times. If I’m still met with resistance, I’d advise if the consequences, and let him make that decision.

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